“He knew me in all the ways that truly mattered: the shape of my fears,...” — Justina Chen Headley Quote

“He knew me in all the ways that truly mattered: the shape of my fears, the contours of my dreams.”

“What would it be like to look in the mirror and actually accept what you see? Not loathe the reflection, or despise it, or be resigned to it? But to like it?”

“I'd describe it less as cold, and more just painful. I feel like my blood vessels are going to freeze up and burst.”

“All I can think is that I want her more than anything. I want her more than I've ever wanted anything, ever.”

“At your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you'll still be worth it to the right person.”

“If I have to 'catch' a man to get a husband, I don't want one.”

“Your vulnerable partner may frequently put himself down and sometimes respond to positive feedback, but, in general, he is chronically self-critical and may seem neglectful or dejected most of the time. It often looks like depression. If this is your partner, you may become aware of this pattern over time through the absolute sense of isolation, neglect, and disconnection that unfolds.”

“Accepting her as she is allows her to feel loved and valued for her true self, not for how well she fits into a mold. Unrealistic expectations can create pressure, making her feel like she’s constantly falling short, even when she’s giving her all.”